Emotional healing and support
Therapeutic Counselling for Fertility Issues
Fertility counselling isn’t just about providing emotional support; it’s also about addressing the complex emotional and psychological aspects of infertility. Working through difficult, stuck emotions helps to free up your entire system, which can have significant benefits for those facing fertility challenges.
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Fertility isn’t just about the physical body. We are highly complex creatures, and every aspect of our being (mind, heart, energy and body) intimately interacts with every other aspect. If one aspect goes out of balance, it can knock our entire system out of balance, so mental, emotional, energetic and physical imbalances can all adversely affect fertility. It is, therefore, quite likely that there is an emotional or psychological component to your fertility issues. Emotional wounds, deficient feelings, limiting beliefs, guilt and shame can all knock our system out of balance and contribute to fertility issues.
A fertility counselling session usually begins with you sharing the psychological challenges you are currently facing. Most people do this from their head, but that’s not where our emotions reside – our active emotions are in our heart, and our repressed emotions are usually stuffed down into our belly. Telling your counsellor what you already know can be cathartic, but that’s the extent of its usefulness. Staying in your head during counselling doesn’t help you to go deeper… to unpack your emotions, and heal the underlying causes. This was scientifically proven in the 1960s by Eugene Gendlin. So, sensing down into your body (somatic sensing) is one of the most important aspects of a therapeutic counselling session. Lee is trained in many different therapeutic approaches, but the ones he most commonly uses are outlined below:
- Somatic Sensing: We all have the ability to sense down into our body and know what we are feeling from moment to moment, but for most of us that ability has long been forgotten. As we tried to avoid the hurt, disappointment and helplessness we experienced at difficult times in our childhood, we suppressed those “wounded parts” of us so they wouldn’t overwhelm our entire system. Back then, we didn’t have the capacity to fully feel or process difficult experiences, but now, as adults, we do. Sensing down into our body in the present moment helps us to reconnect with these “wounded parts” that underly almost all of our current psychological issues. The problem is that other “parts” of us try to stop us from reconnecting with these “wounded parts” in case they overwhelm us again, which leads us nicely onto the next therapeutic approach that Lee uses…
- Parts-Work: You have probably heard the term “inner child”? Well, we don’t just have one inner child, we have lots of them. Right now, these young “parts” of us are holding onto unprocessed wounds from our past. Wounding happens when our capacity for processing our experiences becomes overwhelmed. This was a common occurrence in our childhood because our consciousness wasn’t developed enough or experienced enough to process challenging, unpleasant or traumatic situations. Parts-work involves our mature adult awareness talking to our “inner children” (wounded parts and protective parts) and wounded parts, and helping them to release the wounds and burdens they have been carrying for so many years.
- Empathic Healing: Lee has a natural empathic ability which allows him to sense energetic emotional blockages in other people. This allows him to feel into his client’s issues, and assist with their healing and transformation in ways most other counsellors and healers can’t. It’s a natural ability that we all possess to some degree, but Lee’s has become very sensitive through years of clearing and refining his own consciousness, and lots of practise with other people.
This holistic approach to counselling has proven very effective at helping people to free themselves from their limiting beliefs and deficient feelings. Reducing one’s emotional and psychological burden can help to improve fertility.